Riddle Me This

There are a lot of women that are tired of hearing cop-outs like: I have a lot on my plate, I just got a new job, My heart was handed to me…5 years ago. Why do people insist on giving excuses instead of the truth? At least with honesty there are no questions or false hope. Hope is a lingering pain where the truth is a short drop.

Men talk short hand to each other, but when talking to women they beat around the bush instead of giving clear cut answers. As women we tend to come up with elaborate stories as to why a guy hasn’t called or doesn’t want to be in a relationship. I feel this is a conditioned response due to the riddling nature of any conversations where a man has to explain himself. I have never once in all my years of dating had a guy with the balls to say, hey I just don’t want to date you. Is it because they’re trying to consider our feelings? They don’t want to be harsh? It doesn’t have to be said bluntly, but it should be said in some form or another. I once told a guy that I didn’t want to see him anymore because I felt we lacked chemistry. I thought that would make a clean break and was a damn fine answer but he still tries to call me every once in awhile. I’m starting to think he’s a masochist. Either way the chemistry will never be there and I just wanted to be honest.

I think what drives girls crazy is the not knowing. Not being able to figure out what is going on inside a guys head. When you are into someone that doesn’t appear to be into you there are always questions like, Am I not their type? Not funny enough? Are my boobs to small? Every insecurity a woman has ever felt is magnified. Maybe men unintentionally leads women on because they don’t want to have the daunting conversation that will cease fire on all the questions. It is easier to ignore the problem than to face the firing squad. Not to mention technology makes ignoring so much easier these days.

Why do we feel the need to let the other person down slowly when we decide not to further the relationship? Would you rather have your feelings spared with an excuse or do you want to hear the truth even if it stings a bit?

This video is a live performance of Sara Bareilles. She starts with a cover of Cee Lo Green’s Fuck You, then she goes into her song, Gunna Get Over You. No, it doesn’t exactly tie into this weeks blog, but it does make me feel better when I think of a certain fool in my semi-recent dating life J