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Welcome to the first posting of, "He Said What?". My name is Karen and I am a 27 year old female who, I’m proud to say, has her life together. I have a great job that I love, friends that are fun and reliable, and the most stable family unit anyone could ask for. So what could possibly be missing from this equation of virtue and my stereotypical answer is: A MAN. That’s right a good ol’ fashion supportive, fun loving, and responsible figure that is not A) related to me or B) a girlfriend.  

I have a group of friends ranging from ages 23 to 31.  They are all successful, vibrant, and beautiful women. So why are they all single?  For the past 2 years I have been watching my friends date and one thing remains stead fast: No matter who the guy, where you meet them, what their age or ethnicity they all seem to be the same: Eternal Bachelors. How many times have you heard a guy say, “Your great, but I’m just not ready for a relationship”? Excuse me sir, I asked if you would drop me off at the airport, not marry me.

There are a lot of self-help books for woman. My all time favorite was, “Why Men Love Bitches”. Until my cousin, male of course, quizzically stated, “ So it’s a book that teaches you how to be an independent woman, but the end game is to land a man?”…damn, he's always right!  I have to admit though the book is still a guilty please of mine. If you want to feel empowered I suggest it. So I got to thinking since these Self Help book aren’t really useful and Sex And The City is only useful up to a point (God knows it’s my dating bible) where else besides my girlfriends can I find woman just like me. Woman who find themselves in the same predicament over and over.  These days dating feels like being able to swim in the shallow water, but when thrown into the deep end all you can do is tread water until someone throws you a life raft…not fun!

SO here is what I want to do. I want a blog where friends can post and chat about the single life and the stages of a relationship from a woman‘s point of view. A place where you can ask a question and get answers from all different types of free thinking intelligent women. I will put a structure to it so that it’s not just a mess of opinions. Every week a new question.  

This is not a blog to bash the male sex. Lord knows we love 'em.  It's also not to emote about how hard it is to be single, because it's only as hard as you make it. Personally I LOVE being single. When your on your own you learn so much about who you are and what you can do. If you don't know these things then, in my opinion, you are not ready for a relationship. This is a place for advice that you may or may not want to hear, so be careful what you ask! We are not doctors or therapists and we could be wrong, BUT we are here for each other and that's what matters. I hope that you will enjoy this bog and that you find solace in knowing you are not alone in this crazy dating jungle.

Please email me with any new questions or topics you want to discuss and I will post them as a subject to converse about every week: k.bombardier84@gmail.com

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