Take These Rings

Like Drake says, “I’m just doing me and you can’t understand it”. The closer a woman gets to 30 the more society pressures her to put a ring on it, but what if that’s not what she wants? How are we even suppose to know what we want at this point in our life? With my 28th birthday around the corner marriage couldn’t be father from my mind. In fact, I am not even interested in dating. When or why my attitude changed I am not sure. I watch Facebook and see girls from high school and college settling down and having their 2 or 3rd kid. I want nothing to do with that lifestyle. What is that makes some woman want to settle down and others not?

I think every woman should have a period of time when they are completely on their own: no serious relationship, no casual dating, no fuck buddy. There are so many people that have never had the opportunity to rely solely on themselves. Usually people float from relationship to relationship without lag time. How are you suppose to learn about yourself if you’re never by yourself?

I was in a committed relationship for 6 years, yep 18 to 24. Then one day it was like the blinders came off and I saw that I was not my own person. I spent the most defining period of my adult life being shaped by someone else. I became the person that I thought he wanted me to be. I didn’t know what I wanted from my own life. Most every decision I made revolved around my perception of the way things were suppose to be. So I rolled the dice and did the hardest thing I’ve ever done. The entire year after I ended the relationship was the most challenging scary year of my life. I just kept telling myself you have to do this, you don’t even know who you are. I never felt so alone. Two and a half years later I have yet to be in a serious relationship, by choice. I’ve dated some really great men and some real pieces of work, but to this day there’s not one regret . That journey was the smartest move I could have made for myself.

When you’re a woman in your late 20’s early 30’s there is a fear of getting into a relationship and loosing that independence. If you’re a man your afraid to give up serial dating. I always thought that was the dumbest mind frame. When I was seeing Mozart his friends kept telling me, “He could meet the girl of his dreams tomorrow and he wouldn’t date her.” to which I scoffed and rolled my eyes, but now I get it. The worlds largest light bulb went off and I shutter to say I‘m now in the same boat. You get to a point in your life when being on your own is better than compromising for someone else. Only having to make decisions for yourself and not worry about pissing off your significant other is priceless. Plus I figure marriage will last a lifetime so why are people in such a damn hurry?

The following video is a cover band of the Yeah Yeah Yeahs. So please don't worry about the video quality. The real Karen, yes we have the same name, is amazing and I suggest you look the band up. This video was the best recorded version of Cheated Hearts that I could find and post. Love this band love this song! Enjoy!